“Be thankful for the good and the bad things in your life. They have both taught you something.”
Gratitude has often given rise to the interest of the scientific community. During the last few years mainly, research that proves its benefits is increasing more and more.
The general outcome of the research is that expressing gratitude can have a positive effect on the soul, the mind and the body as well. Emphasis has also been given to its social dimension, and scientists claim that when we feel grateful we tend to analyze our relationships with other people and find out if and how they have supported us.
The word “gratitude” derives from the Latin word “gratia”, which means grace, courtesy. All the derivations of this word refer to generosity, gratitude, gifts, the joy of giving and receiving or just giving generously without taking something in return (Pruyser, 1976). The object of gratitude can be a person or an actual being – for example our friends, animals, etc. or something impersonal or other non-material entities – such as God, nature, the universe, and so on (Teigen, 1997).
It has been said that gratitude is an emotion, a behaviour, a moral value, a habit, a personality trait or a reaction (Emmons & McCullough, 2003) and can be applied in the past, present and future.
According to Weiner, gratitude as an emotion is a situation that depends on the outcome, which comes from a cognitive process consisting of two steps: recognizing the positive result and recognizing that there is an external source for this result (Weiner, 1985).
Robert Emmons, professor of psychology at the University of California, Davis, and one of the most well-known experts on gratitude, claims that gratitude makes us appreciate the value of things – however little or big they are – and not take them for granted. He also believes that gratitude helps us be more active and focus on positive facts, so that the joys we get from life are multiplied (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).There have been numerous research in which took part thousands of people of all ages. Briefly, the basic outcome is that people who practice gratitude regularly have the following benefits:
On a physical level:
– Stronger immune system
– Less pain
– Lower blood pressure
– They exercise more and take care of their health
– They sleep more and feel more relaxed when they wake up
On psychological level:
-More positive feelings
– More awake, alive and active
– More joy and pleasure
– More optimism and happiness
On social level:
– More helpful, generous and compassionate
– More forgiving
– More extrovert
– Less isolated and lonely
(McCullough, Emmons, & Tsang, 2002, Emmons & McCullough, 2003, Emmons & Stern, 2013).
What happens when we keep a gratitude journal?
There are many ways of expressing gratitude, including keeping a journal. It has been proven that when we express our gratitude on paper, the beneficial effects can be many more compared to simply writing or expressing verbally.
Emmons and McCullough, in one of their studies (2003), instructed young adults to keep a journal of the things they felt grateful for. Other groups have been instructed to keep a journal of things that have bothered them or why they felt superior to others. Compared to other groups, those who kept the gratitude journal increased their determination, focus, enthusiasm and energy.
In a second research, the same researchers found that adults who kept a gratitude journal even for one week only, also had some benefits. They had greater optimism, exercised more, got sick less and had less pains (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).
Dr. Martin Seligman (2005), psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania and pioneer in the study of positive psychology, studied the effect of various psychological interventions on adults by comparing with writing assignment for early memories. When the assignment of the week was to write and give personally a gratitude letter to someone they had never thanked before, the participants immediately reported a huge increase in their happiness. This effect was much greater than any other intervention, with the benefits lasting more than one month.
Expressing gratitude through actions
Scientists point out that gratitude does not mean to believe that we are better than the others. Sometimes we feel grateful for what we have by looking at what others do not have or when we realize that they are worse than us. But this is not gratitude, it is just a comparison.
In addition, in order to have positive results from gratitude, it is necessary not only to assess the positive aspects of a situation, but we also need to take a step beyond that, to show or to express it. Gratitude not only encourages us to become aware of the gifts we have received, but to give in return as well. For this reason, sociologist Georg Simmel (1950) called it “moral memory.”
It is worthwhile wondering every day what is our act of gratitude for today. Ultimately, gratitude is a life attitude and a point of view. American politician Frank Clark was right to say: “If a fellow isn’t thankful for what he’s got, he isn’t likely to be thankful for what he’s going to get.”
Journal prompts on Gratitude
- Fill in the following sentence: right now I feel grateful for…
- Make a list of everything you have and feel grateful for. You can fill it up every day with something new.
- Make a list of the memories that make you feel grateful.
- Choose a moment for which you feel grateful and describe it in every detail.
- Write a letter to someone you feel grateful for. Read it again and if you wish, send it as a gift.
- How can you express your gratitude for a moment that you laughed?
- How can you show your gratitude to yourself?
- How can you show your gratitude to your body?
- How can you show your gratitude to the people you love?
- How can you remind the others of the value of gratitude?
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